What Makes You A Bad Gay? DNA Readers Have Their Say…
POLL: DNA’s Instagram | HAVE YOUR SAY | Instagram
Not into pop divas? Can’t stand the gym? Don’t like circuit parties, Halloween or Mardi Gras? Do you prefer sport to musical theatre?
There seems to be an image of gay men in popular culture that is reinforced by marketing and media. We at DNA understand that gay men aren’t all the same. Although we may share interests, at the end of the day, the only truly monolithic thing about gay men, bi men and queer-identifying transmen is that we’re attracted to other men.
Despite this fact, we are shown examples of gay culture that often make us feel like there’s certain things we are supposed to like and certain behaviours we’re supposed to exhibit. If we don’t align with these attitudes it can make us feel ashamed or out of the loop. There’s common ground to be found in this though, so we asked our Instagram followers to share their opinions.
What makes you a “bad gay”?
HERE ARE A CROSS-SECTION OF INTERESTING RESPONSES…
Don’t like or care for Madonna, I can’t cook. – iamiggyg
Never seen or care to watch Ru Paul. Drag is meh. Don’t like Beyoncé/Ariana/Taylor Swift/Lady Gaga or EDM/House (give me classic rock and metal pls). Don’t follow celebrities. Know nothing about interior design or high fashion. Actually like, play, follow, and attend sports events. Not an activist and don’t care about your politics. Basically, I score zero points – Jonkassian
Don’t like Kylie Minogue and I thought that Padam song thing was a pile of sh1te – Davidhunterkeay
I use that little bottle to clean my VCR heads. – clevertrevor81
Expecting allies to march for your human rights but not being an ally and marching for the human rights of others. – Chrismif
I will pick videogame music over Kylie or Madonna any day of the week. – Jonokulicz
I’d rather stay home and watch k-dramas than go out. – theausmerican
Not knowing your Joan Crawford movies or being able to tell the difference between a Chrysler a Cadillac and a Lincoln Continental, vintage of course darling. – richard_a_lloreda
My boyfriend doesn’t like brunch. – badgerbait1970
I hate going to clubs (down to the fact that I don’t drink), I’m not a huge fan of musicals, Beyoncé’s music is overrated (though I don’t dispute what a talented artist she is), I consider myself quite introverted, I follow winter sports religiously, though I don’t think this makes me a ‘bad gay’, it just means I like what I like. – yosoyjoe95
I hated the musical RENT. And I don’t go out of my way to watch Drag Race. If it wasn’t for my boyfriend, I probably wouldn’t have watched it all. I like it, just still wouldn’t take the time to go out of my way to watch it. – emberzrx
Hate clubs and circuit parties, never been to a pride parade, never been in a gym. – lordwalker_71
Probably being attracted to women would make you a bad gay. Everything else is just fine. – connorsaurus_au
I don’t like drag shows. – Curtischicago_ft.lauderdale
I hate Will & Grace and don’t like musicals. But I am a Charli XCX, gay, oh and I hate rainbows. – Paulytotally
Don’t like Beyonce… CALM DOWN EVERYONE. This is not a drill!! – boobz_bechamel
I have always said I was a bad gay. I have never been to Fire Island, P-town, Blacks Beach, Ibiza, and I’ve only been to San Francisco on business. Never went to a rave, circuit party, don’t like drag shows, and I am not a fan of Barbra. – Johnmcplum
Never saw a minute of Drag Race and can’t see what’s so special about Beyoncé, Shakira, Taylor Swift or any of those “divas” we are supposed to be into. – Jan.schwabing
I only watch Drag Race because my husband does; I can name about 4 to 6 Taylor Swift songs… don’t ask me what “era” they’re from; don’t do circuit parties or dress up in costumes for anything. Oh, it gets worse: I watch SPORTS! on TV and in person – bigdavekeast
A bad gay: one who brags about not liking “all that gay stuff”. – gimmemario
The response we received from our global online community appears to be quite diverse. This poll was posted on March 13, 2024 and we wanted to provide the opportunity for our readers to see how there isn’t a way to be a “bad gay” or a “good gay”. If you feel inclined, we would love to hear what you have to say.
The comments in this article have been chosen to represent the wide range of opinions shared. Opinions in this post are not reflective of opinions held by DNA or DNA staff members. We encourage you to visit our Instagram and leave your own comments.
