Gay Influencer Couple Say They Were Drugged And Sexually Assaulted After One Drink In LA
Married creators Toby and Mikey Perryman-Payne, who post under Toby’s Home, say they were drugged and sexually assaulted during a trip to Los Angeles in September 2024.
What they say happened
In a video shared with followers, Toby said they went to dinner in West Hollywood, then headed to a bar and ordered one drink before “completely” blacking out. He said he later woke up in “a completely strange place”, undressed, next to someone he did not recognise.
Toby also said he realised he was “surrounded” by weapons, without explaining what he saw, and that Mikey was not with him. He said he managed to persuade the person in the room to let him leave, where he found Mikey and another person passed out on a sofa. Mikey said he was “still quite out of it” as he came around, and credited Toby’s quick thinking with getting them out.
People, who also reported on the couple’s account, noted they shared their story in a TikTok post and described waking in a location with people they did not recognise.
Toby said they wanted to “take back their power” after the incident left them avoiding social events and even holidays. The couple later travelled again, including a holiday to Barbados.
What to do if you think your drink was spiked
What do you do if something feels off, fast? Get help as soon as you can. Drug-facilitated sexual assault, often shortened to DFSA (drug-facilitated sexual assault), is when alcohol or drugs are used to impair someone’s ability to consent, and it can affect anyone.
If you can, stay with someone you trust, seek urgent medical care, and ask about toxicology testing, since some substances leave the body quickly. If an assault may have happened, support services can talk you through options like reporting and forensic exams, without pressure. Information hubs on spiking also recommend keeping any drinks in containers if they are still available, and seeking help straight away if symptoms hit suddenly.
